If you live as the body, you will value only that which is related to the body || Acharya Prashant (2015)

June 22, 2016 | Acharya Prashant

Questioner (Q): Morally, we are supposed to obey our parents for several reasons, we owe them a lot. Is there any point where it is okay to defy them and take an independent decision going against their will and liking, when does this realization come?

Acharya Prashant (AP): See, it all depends on how one looks at herself.

Parents, spouse, relatives all are representations of the body in the world. Whose parents are we talking of? We are talking about parents of the body because that is what they give birth to — the body!

So, one could say — I am the body;

One could say — I am the mind; or,

one could say — I am Silence, “I am That”.

For sure, I am not identified with the body or the mind and what I am about that I would not like to venture to comment. But, one thing is certain — I am not ‘terribly’ identified with the body.

If, within you, are not deeply body-identified, then outside you, cannot be too identified with your parents. The ‘body identified’ person will surely be deeply identified with those who are connected to his body.

With your husband or wife, you have a relationship of the body. Now, if you are body-identified within, then you will be identified with your husband also, outside. Within, you are identified with your body; outside, you are identified with the husband because with the husband you have a relationship of the body. Same with parents, the parents gave birth to you — the body. The parents must be as important to you as your body is. And what I am saying works both ways.


Acharya Prashant is an emerging champion of socio-spiritual awakening in the world today. An alumnus of IIT-Delhi and IIM-Ahmedabad, and a former Civil Services officer, Acharya Prashant is an acclaimed Speaker, Vedanta Teacher and author of over 50 books. Apart from that he wears various hats: a veganism promoter, an environmental activist, a science activist, a campaigner against superstition, and a champion of essential human freedom. Know More